Forgotten mothers

Mother’s Day is a time to honor all the mothers in our lives, but not all mothers may have been celebrated – those who have lost their babies, especially to miscarriages and fibroids. In fact, more than one million miscarriages occur in the U.S. each year.

Many women feel they become a mother the second they see their positive pregnancy test. The title of mother is not taken away with the loss of a baby. There aren’t any cards for these mothers, and they rarely receive flowers, but they are still mothers.

Society and Miscarriages

Society can be insensitive to mothers who have suffered a miscarriage. The flood of healthy babies born on social media posts, celebrity bump watches, and endless invitations to baby showers are constant reminders of what some women have lost. Personal comments, while in good nature, can also come off as hurtful when speaking to someone who has lost a baby.

This is a group women do not ask to join. This group knows the true meaning of heartbreak for women trying to conceive. This a group that often suffers in silence. This is a group of survivors. And most importantly, it is a group. Women who have experienced miscarriages should know that they are not alone.

The Emotional Effect

Women experience so many different emotions after losing a pregnancy. Guilt can be high on the list of emotions. When something bad happens in a pregnancy, the first thing women look at is themselves, asking why it happened and what they could have done differently.

Some women have guilt for having so many emotions or for not feeling the way society expects them to feel. There is no correct way to feel after having a miscarriage, the only true way is to cope in your way.

There are many triggers for women who experience miscarriages, and a well-meaning question can be one of them. Asking the woman in your life when she will have children may be the last thing she wants to hear. It is easy to forget that not all women without children have chosen this. Someone in your life may struggle to have children and may not want to be asked when she plans to start her family.

Miscarriages and Fibroids

Miscarriages can happen for a few reasons, but none are the mother’s fault. Health conditions, like uterine fibroids, can sometimes affect a woman’s ability to become pregnant and carry a pregnancy to term. The size and location of your fibroids are thought to sometimes affect fertility. There are a few reasons why fibroids could negatively impact pregnancy or fertility; they include:

  • If the fibroid is closer to the middle of the uterus
  • Subserosal and submucosal fibroids can interfere when they grow within the uterine cavity
  • Larger fibroids can take blood flow away from a developing fetus
  • Changes in the shape of the uterus can interfere with the movement of the sperm or embryo
  • Fibroids can block fallopian tubes.

And fibroids aren’t the only reason. Some many conditions and issues can cause miscarriage or infertility, such as: genetic conditions, long-term health issues, polycystic ovarian syndrome, age, and a weakened cervix. No matter the cause, a miscarriage can be difficult for the woman and her family.

This is why people must be empathetic when it comes to talking about a woman’s ability to conceive. Pregnancy and miscarriage can be sensitive topics; however, they shouldn’t be forgotten or ignored either.

Diagnosing Fibroid Disease



Becoming a mother is one of the most challenging things women can experience. This experience can be more difficult when the mother does not get the opportunity to take her baby home with her. These mothers deserve to be celebrated with all mothers, especially on Mother’s Day. Their celebrations may not look the same, but they are celebrations all the same.

To all mothers: you are warriors, but you are not facing this battle alone.